Have you ever wondered why you keep on attracting the wrong people and, thus, relationships in your life instead of your true soul mate, that one soul that instantaneously intertwines with yours, connecting with you to the core of your being? Here are five steps that will aid you in your quest towards finding that real soul mate once and for all:
Step #1 : Be the Critic of Your Own Journey
Being your own critic is a step that requires a deep plunge into your past. It’s much like holistic therapy actually, in which the core of the disease must be found in order to be relieved of the symptoms. The same applies to the psyche as well as the soul’s journey. Start by rewinding your current life’s journey like a movie in your mind, then sit back and watch. Which moments caused you to fear or be angry? Which made you happy? When did you depict courage and when were you weak? Sometimes we end up feeling that we are still only just children who think they have grown up, displaying the same traits as we did twenty, thirty or forty years ago. Knowing and acknowledging yourself as the eternal child or eternal self is the first step to any great achievement.
Step #2 : Love Yourself
Once you have gotten to know who you are, attempt to like who you are, no matter the cons and disadvantages you may think you possess. You are who you are and that cannot change, unless you take a new turn in your life. For now, focus on who you are while looking at yourself in the mirror. You could also use an encouraging confirmation, such as “I am who I am, I love who I am, I cherish my undying, eternal, universal self.”
Step #3 : Decide What You Want
Now for the tricky part. So you say you want to find your soul mate? Alright then, who is this person? Does he/she have a certain hair or eye colour or build? Does she look like Angelina Jolie or does he look like Brad Pitt? Well if any of the above apply, then simply press “delete” on the list you’ve just conjured; because when we’re talking about soul mates, that genuine, pure factor that attracts and is attracted to is spiritual, not biological. Take a good hard think and make a list of the traits you want this person to have. Be honest and meditate on this ideal person before actually welcoming him/her into your life.
Step #4 : Ask the Universe
The universe, as you may already know, is a teacher. Not only does it heed your every call, it also reflects that call. If you’re stressed, a hectic and stressful environment will surround you. If you’re afraid of getting sick, you will most likely get sick. If you’re happy, then the world will smile back at you. It’s as simple as that. By stating your purpose the universe, whether that is an affirmation or a simple, silent feeling, will get you to your target faster. Open yourself to the universe of possibilities and allow them to fill you with their creative energy. State something like “I am open to the universe and ask for it to reveal my true soul mate to me” to emphasize on that inner will.
Step #5 : Receive
You have now gone through steps 1 to 4; you have acknowledged who you are and loved yourself for it, you have made a decision based on your true will and you have asked the universe to manifest that which you seek. So now you’re most likely sitting back, waiting for it to happen. Well that’s not the way it goes. The universe may already be heeding your desire and working on it, but it cannot send you a gift in the mail if the mailbox is locked or not even there, for that matter. Transmute all the feelings of limitation you may be experiencing, let go of emotions like fear and stress and open yourself to what you have asked for.