How do you find and choose one special person from a world of potential mates? Some say that the key lies in the human brain and the way it is wired for romantic love, sexual attraction, and the need for attachment. The desire to give and receive love may compel us to look for the ideal life partner, but finding the right one can be difficult. Still, humans were choosing a single mate with whom to bond long before Kabir, the fifteenth-century Indian poet, wrote that “the road of love is narrow.” The Law of Attraction will bring someone perfect for you if you allow for that to happen in your life. Be aware that you cannot change anyone but yourself, so don't try to use the law for that purpose. It won't work because you don't own their vibration and thoughts. You can change only yourself.A vital step in getting the relationships, things, circumstances, or life experiences you desire is to allow yourself to receive whatever you are intentionally creating. That is why the affirmations “I am open to receiving” and “I allow my highest good to come to me now” are so powerful and should be repeated often.Focus on the life you want with the kind of person you want. Feel joy, gratitude, and peace to raise your vibration to draw that person to you. You have a choice in every moment to be available to love. Put your attention there and the attraction begins. Don't worry about when, where, or how it will happen. Know that someone special is en route to you at this moment. The speed of the arrival is directly related to the strength and magnetism of your thoughts, intention, and desire.
Make a list of the good qualities you seek in a partner and why. Or, if it's easier, list the qualities you don't want and then use each in a sentence that states the opposite, or the quality you do want. For example, this could be a negative statement: I feel insulted and disrespected when I hear profanity carelessly peppered throughout my date's vocabulary. Think about the opposite and use it to write a positive statement: I feel happy, loved, and respected when my date is thoughtful and considerate about word choices. Refuse to tolerate bad behaviors such as aggression, yelling, manipulation, deception, lies, threats, and intimidation. Recognize such actions for what they are — abusive behavior. Often such behaviors are by-products of addictions or emotional issues and are destructive to a relationship. Set boundaries. If they are not honored, end the relationship to protect yourself.Some people find it helpful to do a tarot card reading to remind them to make affirmations or do visualizations to attract the perfect romantic partner into their lives. The Sun, a powerful card of the Major Arcana, symbolizes warmth, completion, and a successful outcome of an endeavor. The Two of Cups shows young lovers, symbolizing new romance, engagement, and marriage.
When trying to attract a partner, practice the art of loving another with understanding, patience, and insight. When you find someone new who might be the one, take care to love that person as you desire to be loved in return. Take time to listen. Compliment him and be truthful and sincere. Remember to say thank you. Draw more love to you by affirming your love, showing love, speaking of love, and writing love poems or letters to the one you love.An omnipresent spiritual force begins to draw into your life the love you desire at the moment you decide to open your heart and life to receive that special someone. You might run into that person while taking out the garbage, or on the subway, or at the bank. Look your best from the inside out. Love yourself enough to take good care of yourself. That, in short, is how you turn on the switch for love. Physical, mental, and spiritual health generates the light of your inner being. Let it shine forth. Once you let your light shine forth, it will make things much easier to manifest with the Law of Attraction working in your favor.